11/13/2003 Archived Entry: "Egg Shells"
Yesterday was Stefan’s birthday. He was a friend of mine from way back in grade 3. Stefan died three years ago in a tragic car accident. It was an event that, understandably, affected a lot of people in my immediate circle of friends, some more than others.
It’s somewhat become tradition since, that on Stefan’s birthday we get as many people that knew him together as we can and go out for dinner at Buffalo Charlie’s. It’s a pretty nice affair to see and talk to lots of people you’ve lost touch with over the years as well as sharing memories of Stefan and the good ol’ days.
I think it’s nice that all this effort is put forth to remember him but at the same time I’m disappointed when it’s the birthday of someone who’s alive and a much smaller deal is made of it. I think it would be a much grander thing if we all put the same amount of work to celebrate the birthdays of those still around to appreciate it as well. While it is noble to honour the dead, it is important to remember the living.
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it is also important to remember the undead
Posted by s^23 @ 11/13/2003 11:37 PM EST
i was misquoted!
Posted by dennis @ 11/13/2003 11:56 PM EST
I always thought that the tragedy of Stefan's death would bring us all closer together as friends...I must admit, that there was a point in time where I began to believe it was happening...I was quite disillusioned...it didn't take much time for people to go their separate ways and become as distant as they ever could be...
I have made numerous efforts in the past to try to change this...but to no avail...I sometimes question, whether I'm in the wrong group of friends?...would I be better off in another group of friends?...is this simply a reflection of "Canadian" social interactions (which I find at many times very cold or phony)?...whether I, as a person, truly understand the meaning of friendship?...or is it that certain "friends" don't understand and will never understand its true meaning?
It seems, as Thai has mentioned, that people need to take the "wool off their eyes"...and start to value, appreciate, and cherish that which remains tangible in their lives...as we never know what tomorrow may bring...
Its great that people continue to show support for Stefan each year on his birthday...I'm sure his parents, who were in attendance, also appreciate it...I wish for it to continue until the end of our days...
Posted by dAN @ 11/14/2003 03:20 PM EST